I've been banished like an unmatched sock!!
And this beauty...
And this one...
Some time ago I posted the Rebekah Smith mystery on my blog. I looked at all the details on the facebook group and never once did I see anything in writing that it was a big secret not to share. As soon as I found out it wasn't supposed to be shared I removed the blog post immediately and told them it was me who posted it. (never did I try to cover anything up) Several folks jumped my butt and were "appalled" that I would break the rules. Well, I found out this week that before I got a chance to remove the blog post it had been pinned on Pinterest. I was "reported"! (this is a couple months later) What does that mean? Is there really people out looking to report people? Well, that was the last straw and they banished me from the group. At first I felt bad, but then I felt bad for people that were cruising the web looking for troublemakers and rule breakers like me. I guess I'll have to wait for the project to end before I can see what the rest of the wool applique looks like.
May I implore you not to jump on the bandwagon when someone supposedly has broken the rules? I had no idea until I wrote and asked why I wasn't part of the group anymore. Nobody had the courtesy to tell me they were kicking me out.
I've emailed the designer, Rebekah Smith, on August 6, and have given her to opportunity to make this right.
Aug 9, update: All is right with the world again. Thank you Rebekah for correcting the situation. It says so much about what type of person you are!
I've emailed the designer, Rebekah Smith, on August 6, and have given her to opportunity to make this right.
Aug 9, update: All is right with the world again. Thank you Rebekah for correcting the situation. It says so much about what type of person you are!
Alrighty, moving on to celebrate life and bigger things than nit picky people. I have a giveaway!
Giveaway is Closed! Thank you all for entering.
I hope you won't hold the banishment against me!
Love to you all
Lori
WOW! Banished?! I could see a public flogging, but banished and not informed. Sorry that happened.
ReplyDeleteOh my.... it's the first time I'm hearing that ...I'm so sorry for that ! WE LOVE YOU LORIIIII !
ReplyDeleteAnd thank you for this giveaway ! :)
I can't believe that. I'm sorry and yes WE LOVE YOU LORI XXX
ReplyDeleteOh geez, don't those people have anything better to do, like be nice to people.
ReplyDeleteSorry that happened to you.
We love you Lori and your work.
Banished? How ridiculous! Life is way too short for the hat nonsense- it's almost funny.
ReplyDeleteIs this a group of adults or preschoolers?
:( Life is too short not to be kind. Hugs- have a great day,
ReplyDeleteSorry! I routinely drop out of Facebook groups because of the negativity.
ReplyDeleteI feel for you. So sorry this has to happen to such a sweet and giving person like you. How were you suppose to know it was a secret? They are just little people and you are so much bigger than that. Personally, all I can hold is a candle to you as you are a much better person than I. We love you Lori! xox ;^)
ReplyDeletesilly business - I don't get the whole "control" thing - show this, but not that. Share this, but not that. Oy!
ReplyDeletecount me in as I don't get this magazine.
Banishing you was their loss! I love your work and your blog!
ReplyDeleteMy initial reaction was to laugh out loud, but then I thought, how could anyone do that to someone they don't even know? I'm afraid that is why I am rarely on Facebook. It seems that we are friendlier and more understanding in Blogland. I am sorry it happened to you of all people! It just shows how people go off half cocked these days. What happened to patience and understanding? I would hate to give up the internet entirely, as I have learned a great deal from quilting friends, but I think I am close to blocking the whole world out! O.k., rant over. I love your wool blocks. You always inspire me (too much sometimes!) to try new things. Enjoy the day. We all love you!
ReplyDeleteOh well, they lost a fun and encouraging person in their group! Too bad for them! Hope the rest of your week goes much better!
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear of your banishment and the reason for it. It seems as if some people never make it out of the sandbox. It certainly is their loss! So glad you shared!
ReplyDeleteI love your attitude. You really do have to laugh about it - otherwise it would be too easy to get dragged into,the muck. I have that little eagle block all cut, need to find it again and get it stitched!
ReplyDeleteI like the eagle piece very much. It looks very "rich" in the wool.
ReplyDeleteI have a subscription to the magazine so don't put me in the drawing.
It is their loss! A yucky feeling nonetheless! Interacting with quilters on the web is almost always positive and enriching, but now and then I guess this kind of crud happens. Maybe just like in real life - every now and then a person or people come briefly into your life and cause a stir and then are gone. Shake it off and move on, which you have done! I think I already have that issue of the magazine!
ReplyDeleteSome people take themselves W A Y too seriously!!! I appreciate your sense of humor, but am so sorry it happened to such a nice person! Their loss for sure!
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely!
DeleteThis isn't the first time I've read about a blogger getting in trouble with a designer! So silly, don't these designers realize that they're being paid a compliment & their business is being promoted when we write posts about their designs? This makes about as much sense as not sharing a family recipe! We're not giving away their patterns, only sharing what is under our needle. Don't they notice their websites experience a greater number of hits when their designs are seen on a blog, adding to their bottom line? I've seen the negativity on FB too. It really gripes me when a designer is doing a free QAL and people start nit picking when a step is delayed for some reason. Life Happens for cryin' out loud! Keep doin' what you do darlin', your work is a gift to the quilting community and there are a whole bunch of us who appreciate YOU!
ReplyDeleteIt seems some folks only pleasure comes in making others miserable. They're to be pitied I guess. So sorry you were targeted. Primitive Quilts is always a fun read, thanks for offering this giveaway.
ReplyDeleteLori, how sad someone else's happiness comes at your expense. Good job holding your head up.Love your wool projects they are lovely , keep up the good work.
ReplyDeleteHow silly!
ReplyDeleteLove this magazine and have had subscriptions at various and sundry times but not currently. This issue looks like a super good one (as they all are!).
ReplyDeleteOh yes, please! I'd love a chance at the mag!!
ReplyDeleteOh, for Pete's sake, accidents happen. You're probably better off without them. I'm not a "Primitive" person so don't put me in your giveaway.
ReplyDeleteWow! Rough crowd! Wish I'd seen your post, although I probably did. Just can't recall. I love my subscription to PQ&P. Hope whoever wins loves it too!
ReplyDeleteI republished it, (april of this year) since it has obviously been pinned somewhere anyway!
DeleteHigh 5's girl! Love your spirit!
DeleteI was surprised at all the rules and reporting people, etc.I just read blogs and am not that computer savvy. I enjoy your blog keep on quilting.
ReplyDeleteI don't get the banishing thing. I got my hand slapped once when I shared a different method of piecing a block in Yahoo group dedicated to fans of A FAMOUS DESIGNER. I guess members were supposed to use only THE FAMOUS DESIGNER'S method. What? Isn't quilting about sharing? I left the group. So have a chuckle and move on, right?
ReplyDeleteQuilters by trade are rule breakers. If something is a secret Facebook is NOT the place for it. Banishment sounds like a grade school play ground thing. Rejoice that you're free to do your own thing. :) I was really struck by your post on the 70273 project and will participate because I found it through you. So see there are positive outcomes to your sharing on your blog.
ReplyDeleteI just started slow stitchin' and the primitive thing. I haven't moved on to wool yet, but I just LOVE the table topper on the cover. So warm and inviting. I'd love to win! Shahann@yahoo.com. Thanks for the chance. Happy sewing!
ReplyDeleteI could see if they let you know, but I really don't get this new thing of not showing your work with patterns you buy. I make things for pleasure and if I have rules like that, not worth it to me;) It is a shame and unfair, and i understand, I read things but my brain doesn't absorb it all so I miss things and have had people get mad at me because I didn't read it all, life is too short for so much drama;)
ReplyDeleteDebbie
People are so petty! I joined Facebook to keep in touch with my daughter at college and it is so ridiculous all the whining and complaining on there. Hang in there! mcsdces19(at)gmail(dot)com
ReplyDeleteWow, banished? Really? Seems like they could have been more understanding. This is why I do not do FaceBook too much. Like Tanya said in her comment. there is way too much whining and complaining on there. I also do not like all of the hate and the arguing that goes on on there a lot. Main reason I even have a FB account is to keep in touch with my daughter as well. I would love to win the magazine. Thanks Lori :)
ReplyDeleteWow. Sorry about that. Just picked up a copy on Monday. Heres to celebrating life!!! Several friends I know are fighting for their lives, so I Will celebrate them.
ReplyDeleteWow. Sorry about that. Just picked up a copy on Monday. Heres to celebrating life!!! Several friends I know are fighting for their lives, so I Will celebrate them.
ReplyDeleteYou crack me up!! What is the reason a finished "block" couldn't be posted? Has anyone come forward to say why?
ReplyDeleteYou rule breaker!! Wish I had known you in High School, we would have gotten in lots of trouble! Oops, FUN!!
I LOVE your Eagle! And I'm so sorry you were targeted by ''mean girls". Your life is so full that it perhaps isn't a big deal in the whole scheme of things, but it must be hurtful. And undeserved as you are such a kind and giving person. The actions of that FB group are not how we like to think quilters behave.
ReplyDeleteAlso, was this not a paid program? I looked it up: ''To be a part of the Stitch~Along you will need to buy the pattern from me starting Jan.2, 2016 at Noon EST for a one-time payment of $30 " If I were you I would demand a refund.
On a happier note I d love to win a magazine!
love
lizzy
beautiful, bewtjwatgmaildotcom
ReplyDeleteIt is so hot and humid here that I am looking forward to autumn (grass is always greener :-) )
ReplyDeletequiltschon@att.net
Well I hope whoever banished you never made or makes a mistake in all their life! Sheesh! Your wool work is lovely! You always inspire us - hugs 😀
ReplyDeleteHahaha! You law breaker you!! That is hilarious! Sorry, though, too...hey, I already have the magazine, so don't include me in your drawing...everyone, it is a wonderful issue, and you will love it! Thank you for your generosity.
ReplyDeleteLori, I've heard of groups that will strike you from the register if you don't play to their rules but you are the first I've met to have this experience! You're #1! But for many more positive reasons, I've had pictures disappear without explanation from groups also but not been dropped. They don't know what a loss they've created for themselves.
ReplyDeleteI have a subscription to the magazine so please don't include me in the draw.
Have a very good day.
Wow! Sorry this happened to you, Lori. Just nonsense.
ReplyDeleteThe quilting police drive me batty. I had a comment on my blog about my ad-hoc improve,saying it was very influenced by a specific designer & to please give credit where credit was due. I was like wow! Does this designer 'own' that word or what? If they were referring to my style I'd say the influence was much more influenced by primitive & antique Quilts which just made her ignorant.😊 The jump to assign negative motives is just hateful all the way around.
ReplyDeleteThe quilting police drive me batty. I had a comment on my blog about my ad-hoc improve,saying it was very influenced by a specific designer & to please give credit where credit was due. I was like wow! Does this designer 'own' that word or what? If they were referring to my style I'd say the influence was much more influenced by primitive & antique Quilts which just made her ignorant.😊 The jump to assign negative motives is just hateful all the way around.
ReplyDeleteLove your Eagle, which pattern is this....almost afraid to ask hehehehee!!
ReplyDeleteWell, I guess there is no three strikes allowed and you can cross that off your bucket list of things you didn't mean to do!! Your awesome Lori and I know this has rolled off your back, good for you for being real and sharing your banishment!! Laughter is the best medicine!!
I have my copy of the magazine so don't include me in the drawing!! Cheers!!
DeleteOh my! What a mess. This sounds like out current political situation. Doesn't anyone listen and think before they act? I am sorry you are being attacked this way. Just keep calm and carry on, as they say. Trite but still a good way to proceed.
ReplyDeleteI would love to win this magazine.
Lori...so sorry that you had that experience.
ReplyDeleteI would love to win the magazine. I'm wondering what is between the covers as I love the table runner on the cover!!
Eu também gostaria desta revista!!Sinto por vc.
ReplyDeletetiacarminhapezzuto@gmail.com
Hi Lori, I am sorry you are being made to suffer, even in this way. What happened to someone talking to you first, before the "authorities"?
ReplyDeleteI appreciate your blog, mostly a lurker and I am grateful for a chance to win your magazine.
Liz
I have always thought that quilters were friendly and helpful, but there are always exceptions. I love reading blogs, learning new techniques and being inspired by others work. Glad most of you share so freely. Thanks for the chance at the giveaway. Zollj@bpsnetworks.com
ReplyDeleteMe again. Didn't read the bit about PQ&P this morning because I was too blown away by you being banished.
ReplyDeleteI'm a subscriber of this fabulous magazine, so please don't pick me.
LOVE all the great support you have gotten!!
Thanks for the giveaway. I love this magazine. Hope you are surviving the banishment.
ReplyDeleteWow, banished? How unfair! What FB group was this? Thanks for having the giveaway and keep your spirit up!!
ReplyDeletetrotskyn@att.net
You know, some people don't have anything better to do. I love this magazine, thanks for offering your readers the chance to win
ReplyDeleteOh Lori your not a rebel and you dont have a cause, but you sure did step on toes of some sensitive soles! I think the instantaneous nature of social media causes people over react and act in medieval ways. Thanks for making us feel good and hosting a give away! scahern@bigpond.com
ReplyDeleteI got kicked out of a Yahoo Swap group for using the wrong Kona cream. I felt bad for a while. Had to just get over it! You just can't please everyone. I still haven't finished that swap quilt. Don't sweat it. I have that copy already so no need to include me in the drawing.
ReplyDeleteThis is shocking and upsetting, but I wouldn't want to be part of a group like that anyway!! I'd love to win a copy of this magazine!!
ReplyDeleteWOW! If this is the way this group responds, I would be thankful not to be associated with them! Life is too short. Haven't seen the new Primitive Quilts magazine looks like another great issue.
ReplyDeleteSorry about your negative experience, oh well, you are right to just move on! The Primitive Quilts cover looks lovely, thanks for the giveaway!
ReplyDeleteI say get a life. It is too short to sweat the small stuff. Thank you for the giveaway. I already have a copy.
ReplyDeleteI love your attitude about the whole situation, but sorry you were banished! It is the group's loss, not having your generous inspiration!
ReplyDeleteGoodness, so petty. Bigger things in this world to worry over! Thanks for a chance to win.
ReplyDeleteThat's too bad that you were removed from the Facebook group, Lori. You'd think people would have more important things to do that "police" participants -- like work on their own blocks and make more quilts! Their loss.
ReplyDeleteThanks for offering the magazine as a giveaway. I appreciate it.
--Nancy. (ndmessier @ aol.com, joyforgrace.blogspot.com)
People can be so weird. Anyway, whatever. I love that magazine. I'd love to win it. I have just started some wool applique on cotton and just love it.
ReplyDeleteOh good grief!!!! Those silly police.
ReplyDeleteYour work is so beautiful, FB is certainly the loser. Interesting how anonymity encourages poor behavior and rudeness. I so enjoy your site and look forward to seeing many more beautiful quilts.
ReplyDeleteI really like the eagle block.
ReplyDeleteToo much drama on FB for my taste. What a ridiculous action--to cut you out without even telling you. Sounds like a junior high clique.
Thanks for the giveaway. I enjoy that magazine but I don't subscribe and the local bookstore that carried them is closing.
I love the eagle! And their loss - how silly!! Thank you for the lovely giveaway and inspiration!
ReplyDeleteSometimes banishment can lead to other adventures. Australia would not exist..... It is still hurtful. I've never seen this magazine so it would be lovely to win. Thanks for the opportunity.
ReplyDeleteOne of the reasons Pinterest should be shut down. I'm pleased you are moving on.
ReplyDeleteThe way I see it you don't need them anyway. It is sad to say yes there are people that just want to cause trouble. FB is some of the worse.
ReplyDeletesuebennett1975@gmail.com
So sorry, Lori - and good for you for letting people know what happened. I have seen photos from my own blog, photos of my property taken by others at shows for example, posted all over Pinterest with no attribution. I just accept it as part of the technology, people can copy and paste just about everything. You were helping a designer get attention for her work, I don't see a problem with that. Oh well, it's a lesson I suppose.
ReplyDeleteHardly seems fair to banish you when you weren't the one to pin it! Some people need to get a life!
ReplyDeleteWoW....I couldn't believe my own eyes this morning when I read your blog...So sorry to hear this, the way I look at it, your not missing anything from being banished from it! Its there loss, not yours! Silly, Silly People....
ReplyDeleteLori, I'm so sorry this happened to you! I think that you are one of the most nice and creative person I have ever knew. But they loss something, not you ; )
ReplyDeleteI like primitive look, as well country style!
Have a good day!
Rina.
Who knew you were such a bad girl?! Sorry you were banished without being told. Stitch on!
ReplyDeleteYou poor thing! I innocently broke a facebook group rule once too, and I removed myself from the group after the first comment. I don't have time for folks like that, I say let them henpeck each other to death if that's what makes them happy. I've got too much fun to have for that sort of thing. Don't give it another thought, too many people are better off because of what you share to worry about one silly incident. Oh and I subscribe to that mag, so don't include me.
ReplyDeleteIt is truly abominable the way some people behave and they would never do this to your face. Love the primitives and so am soaking it all in as I'm new to quilting. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteDon't give it another thought! Just reading your blog for so long anyone would know what a kind and good hearted person you are. I have always enjoyed reading your blog and watching what you do and will continue to do so! Hugs,
ReplyDeleteSo sorry you were banished! I'm not sure why some groups have rules like that. My feeling is that the more people that see it across numerous platforms, the more that will join in--good advertising for the designer.
ReplyDeleteLove your wool work. Especially the eagle. I'm into rich and bright wool colors. Life is too short to spend time with groups that are that way. We love you and your blog!!! I'd love the magazine. Cheryl. Ccogswell1947@bellsouth.net
ReplyDeleteOh, good grief! One of the hallmarks of quilting is the sharing that goes on. It happens. Love your wool work. I haven't been brave enough to try it yet.
ReplyDeleteI love your wool work, keep on with the fun and forget about the mean people of our world!
ReplyDeletesewfabrics at outlook.com
Yup, silly of them! But a great giveaway!!!
ReplyDeleteWell Lori you just cant please everyone and take heart that itd not that big of a deal! Love your idea of a giveaway! Carlithequilter@gmail.com
ReplyDeleteSeveral ways to look at. What happened. Trademark and writers rights are nothing to make fun of especially if it is your work that is being used/traded/sold with no prior approval. The members of that group did not have the final say, the owner did. Nice they wanted to defend the owner but not their ultimate say so. If you pulled the post off and sent owner a personal apology including what you have learned from the event, Well that is about all you could do but you also need to look into making your blog not open to unauthorized copying. Pinterest is an odd animal. I like/hate it.....same with FB. You can only lock down so far. Closed groups are the only venue that protects the most and it is being altered.
ReplyDeleteSo that is that and I am hoping everyone is having a sunny day, sewing up a storm and not hearing hammering, my studio is being built!!!!! we had rain and now sun and hoping we don't get another deluge like the one a week or so ago where we were a news item for being grossly flooded....hey look there goes my dock.....
Geez. "No soup for you" I guess. Good to move on, there is too much fun to be had. Would love to read this magazine. Thanks for the giveaway.
ReplyDeleteWow, sounds like a group I wouldn't want to be part of. Too Judgmental for me! It's not like you did it on purpose and everyone make mistakes. Unfortunately people don't let you make mistakes anymore. That's why young people no longer have any way to learn right from wrong. Anyhow, continue on and don't let it get you down! Thanks for running the giveaway!
ReplyDeleteKaren
kjjell3@gmail.com
Lori, So sorry to read this. Innocent mistakes happen; but how it was handled is sad and speaks volumes about those with "middle school-itis". Banishment is harsh especially since you realized your mistake and made amends. I recently joined FB to catch up on family and to check on quilting related sites. I was a holdout because I'm not a fan of all the bullying and hate filled posts. When others are mean, you have to keep a happy heart! Hugs, my friend!
ReplyDeleteI haven't read all the comments, but I'd be willing to bet all 94 before mine sympathize with you and can't believe how this was handled! Personally, I don't want to have anything to do quilt police. If it's supposed to be a secret, it ought to be in HUGE letters and right up front in the rules! That you searched and couldn't find it is a good indication that this was not something that was emphasized. Pinning things without permission is one of the things I don't like about Pinterest. There are ways to try to keep people from taking pictures from a site, codes to put in, but there are also ways around them, and I know them, so I'm sure other people do, too.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you are working to diminish the effect this has on you. Can you incorporate what you've done into something else? I can't believe they didn't even have the courtesy to TELL you that you weren't going to get the information any longer and why. That's beyond bad manners and rudeness! Thank you for the giveaway. This looks like a great issue, and I've never seen the magazine around here. Maybe I just haven't looked hard enough. =)
And sorry! That was Susan @ dezertsuz at gmail.
ReplyDeleteSorry for what happened, if they behave like that you don't want to belong! Thanks for the giveaway, great magazine!
ReplyDeletecork@pa.rr.com
Sorry to hear what happened. Love you and your quilts. Would love to win the magazine. Jan (janrich@centurytel.net)
ReplyDeleteLife is too short to let pettiness bother you. Thanks for the chance to win the magazine.
ReplyDeletejoyecox@yahoo.com
What a shame. Couldn't even tell you about a problem before you got the boot. Don't feel bad, I've been banished from one of those pages too. Life goes on and your work is lovely. Keep on creating. It feeds the soul. :)
ReplyDeleteGood to hear you have moved on, but I can imagine you laid on your mind for awhile...I know it would mine. That table runner of the cover of the magazine is enough for my to want to look inside!
ReplyDeleteReally? Banished? Shame on them for not having forgiving hearts. I would love to win the magazine. Looks awesome!
ReplyDeleteI have found that people on the internet are vigilantes without looking to talk to the person who is "at fault" (in their eyes) first. Hopefully cooler heads will prevail.
ReplyDeleteOh well life goes on and it's their loss. All you can do is apologize and move forward. As my Father always told us, please there are people starving to death in this world.
ReplyDeleteRecently I was contracted by my credit card co. I denied the purchase because the billing state was different than the shop. I received the nastiest email from the shop owner. Called me a thief. Why not just ask if a mistake was made. I mailed her a check, another check to cover her charges from the credit card co. And never got a thank you. Not all quilters are nasty. Thank heavens or I wouldn't call myself a quilter! Kindness goes a long way. Pass it on! Hugs and blessings for you. You are an inspiration for goodness.
ReplyDeleteSome people just need to calm down before opening their mouth! A simple polite email goes a long way. If I know of a designer who treats customers like crap I try not to give them my business.
DeleteI received a letter recently from a quilter who copied one of my patterns for a friend. She said she searched for the pattern and couldn't find it so she enclosed a check. I was so surprised. At first I thought she wanted to buy the pattern. I decided to send her two patterns and thanked her for being honest!
ReplyDeleteLori siento esto del grupo,
ReplyDeleteLa traducción de google no es muy buena,
espero que uno de mis ahijados me lo pueda leer
tengo la revista
buen fin de semana
incredible! I don't banish you, Lori!!! Hugs!
ReplyDeleteI paged through this issue in Chapters the other day. So many wonderful projects. Sorry you were banished but glad you are still here.
ReplyDeleteLive and learn its just one of life's lessons. I appreciate the way you told the story of what happened how it happened and what you did to correct the mistake and what action was taken against you .
ReplyDeleteClear step by step
There is just one nagging question in my mind was there $$ involved did you pay to join this group and/or to receive the patterns?
If so did the booter outers refund your $$ or make arrangements for you to get what you paid for ?
I usually only do free mystery things because I don't want to be guilted into continuing on with the mystery if it's above my skill level ( turning out poorly) or just plan ugly in my fabric choices because I've paid good money for that
I always wonder what bad money is when I say that expression or hear it said
Just look at how many comments what a number of supporters you have and here are many more who have not commented
Colleen
On the left coast
Dear Lori, I am shocked and saddened by the way you have been admonished, it is nothing short of playground bullying, and i find it extremely disturbing. Be assured that you are loved and respected by many for the caring, giving, sharing person that you are, and we will always stand by you. Big hugs to you dear friend.. Marian xx
ReplyDeleteWow, so there really are quilt police. It's quilting, not body parts. Now how silly is that? They embarrass themselves.
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